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Members Rules of Conduct

Effective Date: January 1, 2019 (Updated 2025)

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The Wolfspirit Community exists to foster deep personal freedom, radical authenticity, and sacred exploration through consensual power exchange. These rules are not just policy, they are protection for our members and the spirit of what we’ve built.

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Violation of these expectations may result in immediate removal and permanent termination of membership, without refund.

 

I. CORE VALUES

  1. CONSENT: All members will seek consent for all actions and never assume consent is implied.

  2. COMMUNICATION: All members will actively listen and openly communicate with others to advocate for their own needs.

  3. PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY: All members will take personal responsibility in demonstrating integrity, care, compassion, safety, and the awareness of risk and consequences.

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II. CONSENT AND INTERACTIONS

  1. Consent must be renewed at every event, every scene. There is no carryover.

  2. Do not touch anyone or anything (including people, gear, collars, or toys) without clear permission.

  3. Do not insert yourself into scenes physically or verbally unless invited by all participants.

  4. "No" means no. Silence is not consent. Prior consent is not future consent.

  5. Pressure, guilt, or manipulation to gain play is a consent violation.

  6. Everyone has the right to opt out of anything, at any time, for any reason.

 

III. EVENT CULTURE

  1. Wolfspirit is a community built on intentional kink play, like-minded connection, and personal growth through power exchange. 

  2. Kink play refers to consensual physical, psychological, or sensory-based activities such as impact, bondage, fire, rope, or authority exchange that explore power, sensation, or discipline.

  3. Kink play is not sexual activity. While nudity or arousal may occur, genital contact, oral sex, and intercourse are strictly prohibited at all Wolfspirit events.

  4. Sexual activity of any kind is not permitted at Wolfspirit events, regardless of consent or negotiation between participants.

  5. All play must be negotiated in advance, rooted in consent, and strictly non-commercial.

  6. Spectators must maintain respectful distance from scenes. If those playing could reach you, you are too close.

  7. Aftercare zones are for decompression only. No sexual contact or unrelated conversation is allowed.

 

IV. SAFETY, ACCOUNTABILITY, AND CONDOMS

  1. All play partners are responsible for negotiating limits, risks, safe words, and aftercare before any scene begins.

  2. Members are expected to understand and apply at least one of the following frameworks: SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual), RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), or PRICK (Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink). Regardless of philosophy, risk awareness and explicit consent are mandatory.

  3. The AIDS Response Effort (ARE) provides free condoms and rapid HIV testing as part of their public health outreach. These supplies are made available at Wolfspirit events to support general community wellness and reduce the spread of sexually transmitted infections. More info at https://aidsresponseeffort.org.

  4. The availability of condoms is part of a public health partnership and does not imply endorsement or permission for sexual activity at any event.

 

V. PROHIBITED PLAY

  1. To protect the safety and hygiene of all attendees, the following are not allowed:

    • Scat

    • Vomit

    • Body suspension (skin hooks)

    • Scarification or deep cutting

    • Intentional unconsciousness/asphyxiation

    • Bloodletting

    • Physical fighting or aggressive primal dominance rituals

 

VI. CONDUCT AND RESPECT

  1. Disrespect, harassment, entitlement, and drama will not be tolerated.

  2. Do not bring outsider mentality into our sacred spaces—judgment of others’ kinks will get you removed.

  3. All members are subject to background checks. No convicted sex offenders permitted.

  4. Play offers must be made with maturity and received with grace, regardless of the answer.

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VII. TECH, CONTENT, AND PHONES

  1. No personal photography or filming. We have designated photographers and approved content zones.

  2. Phones must remain pocketed. If you need to use your phone, step into the lobby.

  3. Unauthorized filming or photo-taking is grounds for immediate expulsion.

 

VIII. SUBSTANCES AND SOBRIETY

  1. Do not show up drunk, high, or impaired.

  2. No illegal drugs on premises.

  3. THC, where legal, must be used discreetly and only in designated outdoor areas.

  4. Substance use is never an excuse for behavior or consent failure. You are still accountable.

 

IX. DISCRETION AND VENUE SECURITY

  1. Venue addresses are confidential. Sharing them without permission is an instant ban.

  2. Our community thrives on discretion. Leave no trace of who or what you’ve seen.

 

X. LEGAL PROTECTIONS AND INTENT

  1. Wolfspirit events are private, member-only gatherings focused on BDSM education, kink play exploration, and community connection.

  2. Sexual activity, lewd conduct, and commercial sex are strictly prohibited.

  3. Wolfspirit does not authorize, enable, or facilitate any form of sexual service or activity under Virginia law.

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